Wednesday, 22 February 2012

Dating a porn star


The fact that George Michael is actually dating a porn star didn’t come as a shock to me, but I have to admit that I was surprised. I have no experience in the matter at all, but it made me think. Would I be OK dating a porn star or an escort for that matter? To be perfectly honest I’m not that sure about it. I don’t think that it’s a matter of morals. I do believe however that I’d have a problem with my boyfriend having ‘intimate’ moments with other people. I don’t know exactly how to explain but I would like to know that I share something special with my partner that no other people knew or watched.

Being paid for sex is considered a profession like all the rest, right? It is different being ‘easy’ (aka a slut) and sleep with lots of people not really having any standards and sleep with people in front or behind cameras to get the money you need to pay rent. As an argument I’ve heard from someone that everybody everywhere, in a sense, is using their sex or love partners. From helping to fight loneliness or fill a gap in someone’s life to sleeping with your boss to get a promotion, don’t you use the person next to you? My personal answer would be negative. Personal financial gain is different to psychological gain from both parts in a relationship where each member gives and receives more or less equally.

Also, I fear that in most cases, being paid as a sex object leaves or shows psychological scars. I have two very real examples to show you. I have a friend of mine that dated in the past both a porn actor and an escort. Both guys were of course fine. I spent some time with them in various outings and we had fun. However, both of them had issues when it came to relationships. One of them was extremely possessive and jealous! I couldn’t even grasp that a guy doing porn movies on the weekends could act like that. The second was sentimentally unattainable. I don’t know if that’s expected of an escort. I assume that in order to survive in their profession, they need to create mental walls to protect themselves that it’s not easy to take down, even if they wanted to. Sure the money's good and the looks matter but the price is too high.

These of course are speculations. Not everybody is the same and I can’t generalise. There are all kinds of people in all professions and definitely there is no such thing as being normal.





7 comments:

  1. I agree with you. I could not date a porn star or an escort. I like our intimate moments to be between us. I would not let them bring their 'professional' life into my home life.

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  2. Either is better than dating a lawyer (sorry, it was such as good set up for a joke)

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  3. I've often wondered how many escorts and porn stars have healthy relationships, or if they do at all. I'm sure some people have no problem separating love vs. sex. But I wonder if their "other halves" are able to do the same.

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  4. Meh... George is "dating" him. Meaning using him for sport sex. And since he's a porn star... he should be quite good at it!

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  5. @Jim We're on the same page, you can see what I mean! That's nice!

    @Ur-Spo I'm pretty sure my lawyer readers will appreciate your humour! lol...

    @Erik_Rubright There must be some that do. I fear that a great number don't though...

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  6. @cb In the same way, the porn star is being known by 'dating' George Michael. I didn't even know he existed before! It's a two way street!

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